Because all the other blogs will say "paramour" or "lover" in the lede, and I need to remain relevant (or "down," if you will) with my more trendy readers.
Over the weekend, I read this case in which a male plaintiff alleged discrimination because his supervisor was allegedly schtupping a female subordinate and treating her better.
(The court said "voluntary romantic affiliation," but why say in three words, what you can say in one).
Specifically, the plaintiff alleged that, in exchange for putting out, his female co-worker received better job assignments, bonuses, and other working conditions.
[Tell that to Lana Del Rey. (Sigh!)]
Well, the fatal flaw in the plaintiff's argument, as the court pointed out, is that favoring one female subordinate over one man...and the rest of the workforce (both male and female), because the female subordinate is getting jiggy with it, may not be fair, but it's not discrimination either:
"Mr. Clark presented no evidence that Cache Valley treated women more favorably than men, and no circumstances giving rise to an inference of discrimination. Indeed, as the district court concluded, Mr. Clark merely provided evidence that Mr. Perschon extended preferential treatment to one female employee: Ms. Silver, a co-worker with whom Mr. Perschon allegedly was having an affair or some other form of "improper" relationship. Favoritism of a paramour is not gender discrimination."
So, while running a workplace where supervisors and direct reports engage in consensual romantic relationships may not be the gold standard (e.g., perception of unfair treatment during the relationship, and the fallout when/if the two break up), "preferential treatment on the basis of a consensual romantic relationship between a supervisor and an employee is not gender-based discrimination."
Neither is "friendship" or "cronyism."
In other words, go ahead and treat the jerks like jerks because they are jerks and don't worry about violating the law.